The
key to achieving more than you currently are, no matter
which area of your life or work you are focusing in
on now, is change. The old saying rings true: If you
always do what you have always done, you will always
get what you've already got. If you keep eating and
exercising the way you currently are, you will weigh
the same a year from now. If you continue to sell to
the same people on the same schedule, you will make
the same amount of money next year. In order to move
forward, we must change.
As
I have worked with people, both in a professional setting
and on a personal basis, I have found two things to
be true about change. One, it is simple. Two, it is
not easy. That is, the concept of change is simple to
grasp. People or organizations are quick to say, "Oh,
I know we need to change." Simple.
But
where the problem starts, and why most people and organizations
do not change, is because it is not easy to change.
But, I believe, if the process is well thought out,
and if we have the guts and determination to carry it
out, change can happen, and we can move on to more fulfilled
lives.
With
that said, let me give you what I consider the elements
of change.
Discontentment
with your current state. The first step in the process
of change is to not want to be where you currently are.
You must be discontent with it. If you are overweight,
you must say, "I will not accept this anymore." If you
are in debt, you must say, "I cannot tolerate this any
longer." If you have broken relationships, you must
say, "I will not live with this." This is a decision
to change and not accept the status quo.
The
picture of your preferred outcome. What is it that
you want to change to? It absolutely is not enough to
say "I need to change." It must be: "I am going to change
to..." This becomes the goal. I would encourage you
to get a mental picture of it formulated in your mind.
Get a real picture of it if it is that tangible. Perhaps
write yourself a short essay, extolling the virtues
of what life will be like when you get to the changed
state.
New
associations with the two states. You must begin
to associate your current state you are in with pain,
and the state you want to be in with pleasure. Let's
take weight for example. We tend to think of ice cream,
mounds of it, with pleasure. I know that I do, especially
chocolate chip mint. Last night we went to some friend's
house and we had some ice cream. Normal portions. I
don't like to eat normal portions. I like huge portions
of ice cream. There is an association of pleasure there.
But what I did to overcome the urge to eat scoop after
scoop was to associate huge portions to being overweight,
not the pleasure of the taste. I also associated not
eating the ice cream with feeling better about myself.
Then when it comes to exercise, I work on associating
the exercise and weight-lifting with the pleasure of
fitting into my clothes rather than the pain my muscles
feel every time I do it. This helped me win the battle
of the mind.
Develop
a plan of short, simple steps. "I am going to lose
fifty pounds in two months." "I will sell 500% more
next month." These are examples of change that are good
goals to have long term, but too big for the time allotted
- and this is havoc on change! If your goals are too
big in too short of time, you will fail and become discouraged.
Then you will quit and decide change can't be accomplished.
Instead, you must have short, workable, attainable goals
if you are going to see real change happen and stay.
"I am going to lose five pounds a month for ten months."
"We are going to sell 6% more each month this year (That
would double your business each year)" These are the
size steps you need to take. Then you will build victory
after victory.
Discipline
yourself. Sorry but this is where it is up to you.
At the heart of change is the ability to discipline
ourselves. I cannot lose your weight. Your mom cannot
go out and make sales calls for you. The only real obstacle
standing between your current state and your desired
outcome is you! So do everything you can to get yourself
motivated to change! Force yourself to get out of bed
and get to work on your goals! Discipline yourself.
Choose to make the right decision.
Reward
yourself when you have made the change. That's right:
reward yourself. You have worked hard and exerted a
lot of self-discipline to get there! You deserve it!
Chris
Widener is a popular speaker and author as well as the President of
Made for Success. Just give him a call at (425) 526-6480 to schedule.
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