You
are judged in the first 15-20 seconds when you first
meet someone. Make a commitment this year to analyze
your original contact when you meet people. I know you're
familiar with the phrase: There is never a second chance
for a good first impression. People judge you, first,
audibly when you speak and then they look at you visually
and start making judgments. We are part of a judgmental
society. Therefore, you want to be sure you do everything
in your power to relax people when they are with you.
Not only relax people, but also cause them to want to
be with you.
There
are several ways we can create a favorable impression.
One of them is to smile. Smiling creates warmth. Work
on your smile to make sure it is sincere and receptive.
People will come back towards you the way you approach
them. If you look grumpy or mad, that's the way they
will feel. So always remember to smile!
Another
way to gain favor is to look people in their eyes. There's
an old myth if you won't look at me I can't trust you.
Is that true? I don't know. But if they believe it,
it's true!
How
many of us have forgotten a person's name after we have
met someone? I know I have! I've tried to be cute in
my error and cover up by saying, "Now how do you spell
your last name?" When the reply is J-O-N-E-S, I know
I'm in trouble. I've since learned that I can avoid
such embarrassment by repeating their names to myself
four times when they give it to me. I make this a conscious
habit and encourage you to do so as well. You'll be
amazed by repeating the name how it will stick.
The
last thing is to be careful about the handshake. What
do I mean by that? In sales, we have a tendency to believe
that if we shake hands, we have started a real nice
rapport. Not so. There are two facets to shaking hands.
One is when, the other how. I teach that the proper
time to shake someone's hand is for preplanned meetings
only. If you are cold calling or popping by, the handshake
is too forward. Only for scheduled appointments where
the people you are meeting know your name, is a handshake
necessary and proper.
The
second area, how, is just as important. To convey the
highest level of trust, confidence and competence, you
need to grasp the whole hand and give it a brief, but
solid squeeze. It is important to apply just the right
amount of pressure. Not too limp, and not too strong.
This applies to both men and women sales professionals.
I
was showing a husband and wife homes for an entire weekend.
We finally settled on a home and went back to the office
to begin filling out the paperwork. As I began filling
out the form I looked up at him and said, "Should we
put it down as Ron or Ronald?" He said, "Tom, I think
Jim would make a lot of sense." That's a great way to
lose any rapport you may have built!
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