Do
you ever struggle with making decisions? Are you one
of those people who agonize over their choices? I am
not. I am one of those who can make a decision and generally
be satisfied. For the most part, even when things don't
turn out exactly as I would like, I don't have regrets.
I have learned to be kind to myself, recognizing that
I have done the best I could do with the information
I was given.
Of
course, the life span of a decision making process varies
depending on the person and the subject. Some findings
are easy to come to, while others take a long time to
manifest. It matters not. The only wasted time is when
we are not actively seeking to come to some sort of
resolution. I often refer to this as "limbo land"
-- when we are just hanging in limbo doing nothing to
resolve things, while our stress levels mount due to
our inactivity. That is no fun.
I
haven't always been so decisive, mind you. It's just
that I have a simple but effective process that helps
me come to the conclusions I need to. And it works.
I'd like to highlight the progressive steps I call The
Top Ten C's in Conclusions.
1.
Be cognizant. To be cognizant means to be aware
and informed. Gather all the information you need to
make an educated decision. If you need to know something
just ask someone or research the topic. The more knowledge
you have, the less regrets you have later. This is the
foundation of all decision making.
2.
Give consideration. Give regard other ideas that
may seem unusual to you. Pay attention to new ways of
thinking and looking at challenges. There are often
many solutions to a situation, but sometimes we can
only see what we are familiar with.
3.
Use caution. Having said the above, also notice
anything that really does not feel right for you. We
innately know when things feel "icky." Notice
and acknowledge these feelings for the very important
message they are sending you.
4.
Clarify. Combine the first three steps given here
-- cognizance, consideration and caution -- and see
if there is anything that is perplexing to you. If there
is, repeat the first three steps until you understand
all the implications involved. When you are clear, move
ahead and...
5.
Get Comfortable. Give yourself some time and to
get used to new insights and make adjustments as you
need to. No stress -- just acclimate yourself.
6.
Enlist cooperation. Hey, who wants to make decisions
alone? Talk with somebody (or Somebody) about things.
Share your ideas and get the support you need. Build
your support team!
7.
No character compromises. You are in integrity when
what you think, say and do are all in alignment. Check
and then double (and triple) check to make sure that
you are not compromising your character in any way.
8.
Feel your confidence. At this stage of your conclusion
process, you should feel pretty good about your progress.
Don't allow fear to get in the way! If there are doubts,
go back and repeat the above steps until you feel confident
about your desired outcome.
9.
Have conviction. Beyond confidence lies conviction.
Here you have developed a viewpoint and have certain
beliefs that will propel you forward. Expect the best!
Sometimes faith is our greatest conviction -- let it
carry you on to...
10.
Commitment. It is here that the conclusion process
stops. It is here that one takes outward actions to
come to the conclusions needed. It is here that I borrow
the Nike slogan and say, "Just do it."
The
next time you are wrestling with a decision follow these
steps and see of it doesn't make the process easier.
It works for me!
Oh!
And if all else fails, add #11 to this top ten list
-- flip a COIN. Beth
Burns is a Professional Life Coach, partnering with motivated
people on their personal and professional goals. |