"Our
greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising
every time we fail."
-
Confucius
I
am always in awe of the beauty found in Spring. It's
my favorite season with the bright sun, gentle rains,
vibrant colors and warmer temperatures. One of the most
special sights from my office window is to look out
and see the yellow daffodils peeking out and coming
up. I am always amazed that they come up year after
year as beautiful as ever.
That's
the wondrous thing about us humans as well. Over and
over again, year after year, we keep blooming. We are
given second chances to shine.
Have
you ever failed miserably at something? Have you ever
made a big mistake that seemed impossible to fix? Or
had an illness from which you thought you might not
recover? Maybe you are facing some of these challenges
now.
If
so, I have good news for you! You have a second chance.
You get to wipe the slate clean and start all over again.
You have a blank canvas and get to paint a new creation.
Don't give up! Just look for your second chance.
Do
you know what a second chance looks like? Most often,
it is not dressed, as we have imagined it to be. Sometimes
it requires being able to see the big picture in order
to see the gift found in a second chance. You have to
put on your "second chance spectacles" and look for
it or you could just miss it altogether. What a shame
that would be. Second chances are blessings! They
are grace at its very core.
Maybe
your second chance looks like a different partner, and
not the one you thought you'd grow old with, to travel
with you through life. Or maybe it looks like a different
job instead of the one you thought you "had" to have.
It could look like a new location in which to live instead
of where you have grown comfortably. Or medicine that
makes you feel ill, in order to ultimately heal you.
Maybe your second chance is simply the opportunity for
you to share who you are with others instead of hiding
behind an image.
How
do you recognize the second chances that come your way?
I'd like to offer three suggestions that will help you
see them:
1.
Let go of the past. Learn your lessons...never forget
them but move on. Learn to forgive others and, (this
is a biggie!), learn to forgive yourself. It's difficult
to move forward and take advantage of second chances
if you are stuck in the past. Let it go.
"Finish
each day and be done with it. You have done what you
could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt creep
in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a
new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high
a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense. This
day is all that is good and fair. It is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations, to waste a moment
on the yesterdays." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
2.
Develop a positive attitude and awareness. Expect
the best and look for the good. Become conscious of
opportunities and very often you will find them right
under your nose. Second chances can be quiet and disguised
-- one has to be on the lookout for them.
Thomas
Jefferson said, "Nothing can stop the man with
the right mental attitude from achieving his goal. Nothing
on earth can help the man with the wrong attitude."
Develop
the right attitude for you and see what happens.
3.
Persevere. Keep on. Figure it out. Press on. If
one approach doesn't work the way you would like it
to, then try another. Do what you gotta do.
One
of my very favorite quotes is from Ann Landers who says,
"If I were asked to give what I consider the single
most piece of advice for all humanity, it would be this:
Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when
it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the
eye and say, 'I will be bigger than you. You cannot
defeat me.'"
Wow.
I love that!
So,
then, our success formula is:
Let
Go + Positive Attitude + Perseverance = Second Chances
When
I see the April daffodils popping up as they do, I am
reminded of how they, like us, are given the chance
to grow, become stronger and more beautiful with each
spring season. It's a time of new beginnings...a time
for second chances. Will you claim yours?
Beth
Burns is a Professional Life Coach, partnering with motivated
people on their personal and professional goals. |