Goals.
Most people have a love-hate relationship with goals. They love them because
they are such a great idea and a wonderful way to motivate us to achieve,
as well as evaluate our progress, but hate them because for many, they
more often than not go unattained and simply frustrate them. This isn't
what goals should do!
So
here are some simple ways to set goals so that we achieve them! After all,
what good is a goal if it isn't something you achieve? Here are some simple
steps you can take to make sure that you see change in your life this year.
Narrow
your focus. That's right, start small. Pick two or three areas tops,
that you want to work on. Too many people say to themselves, "I want to
do this, and this, and this, and this..." and they end up doing nothing!
Most of what you do throughout your day can be done without a lot of mental
or emotional exertion, but change isn't one of them. So focus down to a
couple. This way you can get some victory in these areas. Here are some
areas to think about: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual, Financial,
and Relational. What areas need some work? Now, what one thing should be
the first item on the change list? The others will come later, but for
now, you should focus on two or three total.
Keep
the long-term in mind, but set your sights on achieving your goals in the
short-term. Do you want to lose 75 pounds? Good. Long-term you will.
But for now, think short-term. Don't think about losing 75 pound by summer
2002. Think about losing 5 pounds by November 1st. This does two things.
First, It makes it urgent. Instead of blowing it and saying, "Oh well,
I still have 17 months to lose the 75 pounds" (because eventually that
becomes 2 months to lose 75 pounds) your goal is only a few weeks out.
This is better in terms of reaching your goal. Secondly, as you reach these
shorter goals, it gives you regular victories instead of regular progress.
Progress feels good, but achieving a goal is awesome!
Reward
yourself when you achieve the goal. When you lose the 5 pounds by November
1st, go get yourself a grande whole-milk mocha. But just one! Then get
back to your goal for December 1st. This puts a little fun back into the
process of self-control and self-discipline. You will look forward to the
reward and when the going gets tough, you will say, "Two more weeks, two
more pounds, then..."
That's
it. I truly believe that it can be that simple for you.
This
adds some ideas to the above article.
1.
Don't bite off more than you can chew. Instead of saying, "I am going
to quit my three pack a day habit cold turkey," say "I am going to drop
to a pack and a half a day." You can always make new resolutions when you
have achieved the first ones. Give yourself small victories a little at
a time. Instead of saying "I am going to lose 75 pounds," say "I am going
to lose 20 pounds."
2.
Be specific in your timeline. Don't just say, "I am going to lose 20
pounds." Say, "I am going to lose 20 pounds by April 1st." This way, when
you start to be tempted in the ice cream aisle in the middle of November,
you can say, "Nope, only 10 more pounds to go in a month and a half and
I am not going to blow it."
3.
Post your resolutions where you will see them every day. This will
keep the resolution in the front of your mind at all times. Instead of
forgetting that you are trying to lose weight and ordering a big, thick
porterhouse, you will have been reminded earlier that day that you need
to go with something a little more on the lighter side. It will help your
will beat your desire.
4.
Find an encouraging person, who you respect, to keep you accountable.
This person should ask you, at an interval established by the both of you,
how it is going. They must be the encouraging type, though. If you are
blowing it, they can say, "Well, that's okay, get back to it tomorrow."
If you are doing well, they can say, "Awesome job. I'll talk to you next
week." You will look forward to their weekly encouragement.
5.
Find a partner. That's right, someone who is trying to accomplish the
same thing (or something different if need be). Just make sure that they
really want to change, or they will end up just bellyaching about how hard
it is and you will both fall into the abyss.
6.
Write down a list of all of the benefits that will come if you accomplish
this. If it is losing weight it might be something like this: Feel
better, better self-esteem, longer life, clothes are more comfortable,
no more time spent sewing on popped buttons, wife says you look 22 again,
etc. If it is quitting smoking, it may look like this: Better breath, no
more brown fingers, no more wrinkles on my face, no more red eyes, no more
smelly clothes, longer life, wife don't make me spend two hours a day on
the back porch, etc. This will help you see what you will get from accomplishing
your resolution.
7.
Plan a reward if you accomplish your resolution. It can be anything
from small to large. If you drop the twenty pounds, go out for dinner and
dessert. Then get back to lose the next 20. If it is quitting smoking,
go on a mini-vacation. Whatever you do, reward yourself. Or let a spouse
or a friend pick the reward. Then splurge and enjoy!
Chris
Widener is a popular speaker and author as well as the President of
Made for Success. Just give him a call at (425) 526-6480 to schedule.
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