We
have all read about people who are successful briefly.
They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one
great movie and then disappear. Or, there are those
like Marilyn Monroe and Howard Hughes who achieve extraordinary
success, at the cost of their own lives. These examples
do not inspire me!
My
focus and fascination is with people who seem to do
well in many areas of life, and do it over and over
through a lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Paul
Newman and Bill Cosby. In business, I think of Ben and
Jerry (the ice cream moguls), and a local hardware store
owner who is famous for the money he's given to children's
charities. As a Naval Officer, husband, businessman,
politician and now as a mediator and philanthropist
on the world stage, Jimmy Carter has had a remarkable
life. We all know examples of people who go from one
success to another.
These
are the people who inspire me! I've studied them, and
I've noticed they have the following traits in common:
1.
They work hard!
Yes,
they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely
complain, they expect performance from others, but they
expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated,
high-level success starts with a recognition that hard
work pays off.
2.
They are incredibly curious and eager to learn.
They
study, ask questions and read - constantly! An
interesting point, however: While most of them
did well in school, the difference is that they apply
or take advantage of what they learn. Repeated
success is not about memorizing facts, it's about being
able to take information and create, build, or apply
it in new and important ways. Successful people
want to learn everything about everything!
3.
They network.
They
know lots of people, and they know lots of different
kinds of people. They listen to friends, neighbors,
co-workers and bartenders. They don't have to
be "the life of the party," in fact many are quiet,
even shy, but they value people and they value relationships.
Successful people have a Rolodex full of people who
value their friendship and return their calls.
4.
They work on themselves and never quit!
While
the "over-night wonders" become arrogant and quickly
disappear, really successful people work on their personality,
their leadership skills, management skills, and every
other detail of life. When a relationship or business
deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and
they expect to do better next time. Successful
people don't tolerate flaws; they fix them!
5.
They are extraordinarily creative.
They
go around asking, "Why not?" They see new combinations,
new possibilities, new opportunities and challenges
where others see problems or limitations.
They wake up in the middle of the night yelling, "I've
got it!" They ask for advice, try things
out, consult experts and amateurs, always looking for
a better, faster, cheaper solution. Successful people
create stuff!
6.
They are self-reliant and take responsibility.
Incredibly
successful people don't worry about blame, and they
don't waste time complaining. They make decisions
and move on. Sometimes they are criticized for
taking this to extremes - Jimmy Carter carried his own
briefcase and a President "shouldn't" do that!
Extremely successful people take the initiative and
accept the responsibilities of success.
7.
They are usually relaxed and keep their perspective.
Even
in times of stress or turmoil, highly successful people
keep their balance, they know the value of timing, humor,
and patience. They rarely panic or make decisions on
impulse. Unusually successful people breath easily,
ask the right questions, and make sound decisions, even
in a crisis.
8.
Extremely successful people live in the present moment.
They
know that "Now" is the only time they can control.
They have a "gift" for looking people in the eye, listening
to what is being said, enjoying a meal or fine wine,
music or playing with a child. They never
seem rushed, and they get a lot done! They take
full advantage of each day. Successful people
don't waste time, they use it!
9.
They "look over the horizon" to see the future.
They
observe trends, notice changes, see shifts, and hear
the nuances that others miss. A basketball player
wearing Nikes is trivial, the neighbor kid wearing them
is interesting, your own teenager demanding them is
an investment opportunity! Extremely successful
people live in the present, with one eye on the future!
10.
Repeatedly successful people respond instantly!
When
an investment isn't working out, they sell. When
they see an opportunity, they make the call. If
an important relationship is cooling down, they take
time to renew it. When technology or a new competitor
or a change in the economic situation requires an adjustment,
they are the first and quickest to respond.
These
traits work together in combination, giving repeatedly
successful people a huge advantage. Because they
are insatiable learners, they can respond wisely to
change. Because their personal relationships
are strong, they have good advisors, and a reserve of
goodwill when things go bad. And finally, none
of these traits are genetic! They can be learned!
They are free and they are skills you can use.
Start now!
Written
by Dr. Philip E. Humbert, author, speaker and
personal success coach. Visit his website at http://www.philiphumbert.com. |