Recently
I was talking to a member of a consulting firm. He said
his firm thinks intellectual capital and the ability
to articulate a message clearly are key. His problem;
he often found himself struggling when approached in
the hall by the head of another department or a senior
executive. For him, it is much easier to speak in front
of a large group than to master the skill of the water
cooler vignette. He felt that larger venues allow time
for preparation.
He
told me 'the impromptu meetings really catch you off
guard.' As he is spearheading a new department at his
firm, he has opportunities to make a lasting impression
of his business acumen with peers and superiors at the
water fountain. He usually walks away wondering if he
has left them thinking more about his rambling communication
skills than his brilliant ideas. He asked me, "How should
I handle these moments appropriately?"
This
is what I told him...
Outside
your home, ALL speaking is public speaking. There is
no such thing as private speaking. You're right that
many people are less intimidated when they prepare for
a speech than when they must communicate off the cuff
in more informal settings. But conversations on the
elevator or at the water cooler can do as much to boost
your career as giving a formal presentation. How do
you master impromptu meetings and on-the-spot interaction?
1.
Have something to say that is of interest and topical.
Keep up with the news, and peruse your corporate report
or newsletter regularly. Have two or three relevant
things to say at all times. You can even "rehearse"
with a trusted friend for those chance encounters with
CEOs.
2.
Focus on others. The silver bullet in business and
politics is the Like Factor, but it's easy to concentrate
so hard on what others are thinking of you, you forget
that even VIPs care what others think of them. Know
what is going on in your company so you can congratulate
people on their achievements or refer to a previous
conversation: "How was that trip you took last week?"
Your sincere interest in people will make a lasting
impression.
3.
Ask questions to start a conversation. A bright
but introverted friend of mine has a gregarious wife
who often drags him to parties where he doesn't know
anyone. He used to sit in a corner with a drink in his
hand, inspecting the carpet. Then I showed him the question-asking
technique. At the next gathering, he asked the hostess
about her work.
"I'm
an emergency room nurse," she said. "What is your average
day like?" he responded. They talked for an hour. As
the couple prepared to leave, the hostess told my friend's
astonished wife, "Your husband is the most scintillating
conversationalist I've ever met."
Moral:
When you make people feel important, letting them talk
about themselves and sharing what they know, you earn
a reputation as a brilliant conversationalist, even
if you've hardly said a word.
4.
Praise others. For example, be sure to boast about
your entire team rather than your own efforts. Say how
proud you are of them and offer highlights of their
accomplishments. It makes you much more likable, and
the unavoidable implication is that you are a good leader.
5.
Overcome shyness. When you find yourself in an elevator
with a VIP, forget the power plays and do what would
make your mother proud. Be cordial, smile, breathe deeply,
and take the initiative. Say, "Good morning Mr./Ms.
Big Shot. I don't know if you remember me. I am Patricia
Fripp, and I work in the communications department."
Then congratulate them on a recent success -- a speech,
published article, award, or contract.
Or
mention very briefly an achievement in your department:
"Did you hear how we saved the company a quarter of
a million dollars?" You've got seconds to connect, so
don't try to pin Big Shot down. Perhaps Big Shot will
stop to continue the chat when you reach your floor,
but more likely you've planted the seeds for future
conversation. Patricia
Fripp CSP, CPAE is a San Francisco-based professional
speaker on Change, Teamwork, Customer Service, Promoting
Business, and Communication Skills. To learn more about Patricia, as
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