Luck
making requires both giving and reaching out -- the
perfect throw -- and receiving -- catching the boomerang
when it returns. If you only give, but don't allow yourself
to receive, it's as if you threw the boomerang as far
as you could but it never returned to you. That's not
considered a successful boomerang.
The
great satisfaction of throwing a boomerang is watching
it return to your hand after being released. First throw,
then receive. Give and take, in equal measure. That's
what making luck is all about. Think about it for a
moment -- what is luck, really, but receiving a blessing
of some kind. If you can't receive you are "out of luck."
And where do so many of our blessings come from? From
giving.
When
you help someone, you often won't know in that moment
how your actions will eventually translate into luck
for yourself. Like throwing a pebble into a pond, your
energy ripples out, touching hundreds of lives. Precisely
where your luck will arise from, no one really knows
-- until it happens.
If
you are shortsighted, you might say of some altruistic
act – "Why should I do that? What good is it going to
do me?" Imagine you are given a script for a screenplay.
It's a twisted plot that leaves the audience wondering
how it is going to turn out for its main characters.
Eventually, like any good story, it all comes together;
the audience is delighted when the events in the first
act set the stage for the drama in the second act, which
is then resolved in the third act. There may even be
a surprise ending that no one saw coming.
If,
in your life, all you can see is the first act, you
lack faith and vision that by the second and third acts
you will understand how this output of energy will benefit
you. Luck unfolds in mysterious ways. It isn't always
for you to know at the beginning. It often isn't tit
for tat, an even trade -- "I do this for you, and then
you do this for me."
It
may be more like this:
You
take the time to give some free business advice. In
the course of your conversation, the person you are
helping learns that you are serious about playing badminton,
because you use the game as a metaphor for something
you explain. You end the conversation in 15 minutes
and don't stay in touch.
Six
months later the person you helped re-contacts you,
to introduce you to a new friend of his who is also
into badminton. He gives you her phone number and you
call her. She tells you that she is part of an online
chat group for people who are serious about improving
their badminton game. She encourages you to join up,
and you do. A year later, you meet a really interesting
[person] in the chat room. You begin sharing badminton
stories and tips, and it progresses from there. You
fall in love and get married.
The
chain of events that led to marriage started with an
altruistic act for someone who doesn't play badminton
and doesn't even know the person you end up marrying.
The person who has been helped feels indebted, and when
he meets someone with the same unusual hobby several
months later, he is delighted to repay the debt by bringing
the two badminton aficionados together. The rest, as
they say, is history.
If
you were single, and you received a phone call asking
for business advice, and you could see into the future
that extending yourself would eventually lead to the
perfect mate, you might be even more enthusiastic about
giving what was needed.
The
trick to luck-making is that you have to give of yourself
without that crystal ball -- not knowing how or if luck
will come back to you, but trusting that if you are
a kind, helpful person, like the boomerang, blessings
will eventually return to you.
This
article was submitted by Azriele Jaffe.
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